For much of the past century, men have operated under the
rules of Male Code, a rigid set of guidelines that equate
masculinity with stoicism, silence, and strength. As men’s roles
have changed over the past few decades, this lingering pressure
to hide their emotions has wreaked havoc on men’s lives.
Lacking the ability to communicate their needs, desires, and
feelings effectively, they are more likely to suffer from
depression, anger, and isolation, and their relationships often
suffer.
Noted psychotherapist Rob Garfield has worked with men
struggling with emotional issues for more than forty years.
Through his “Friendship Labs,” clinical settings in which men
engage in group therapy, he teaches men how to identify inner
conflicts, express emotions, and communicate openly. According
to Garfield, traditional therapy has largely marginalized men
since many lack the tools to properly engage. But when men
learn to open up to other men who share similar experiences,
backgrounds, and perspectives, they not only build lasting bonds
but learn the skills necessary to thrive in all aspects of their lives.
Writing with empathy and authority, Garfield examines the
unique challenges men face and urges them to abandon male
code in favor of a masculinity that integrates traditional male
traits with emotional intimacy skills. He urges men to connect
with other men using the Four C’s of intimacy—connection,
communication, commitment, and co-operation—to form
meaningful bonds. Drawing on real-life stories and original
research, he shows how their friendships can serve as the
foundation on which men can build and sustain deep
relationships with all of their loved ones—including spouses,
children, and parents—and in turn lead to happier, healthier
lives. Satirist